My 24 year old daughter Chelsea is getting married next June and we are planning a semi-formal wedding. Chelsea’s father Dan and I have been divorced for 20 years, but have remained friendly. I remarried when Chelsea was 6 years old and my current husband Steve has been an important influence in Chelsea’s life. Steve and Dan also get along well. Dan wants to walk Chelsea down the aisle but my current husband thinks it’s his role since he raised her.
I’m sure other boomers have faced similar situations... I’d love to hear suggestions about the best way to handle this?
What are Chelseas's feelings? If she agrees with you, then maybe both men can walk her down the aisle to a point, and then Steve can walk her the rest of the way. It sort of mimics what happened in her life.
I agree with Carol... Ultimately it’s Chelsea’s decision who walks her down the aisle. In today’s world an untraditional approach is more acceptable. What a meaningful family celeberation tht would be if both her father and step father shared int he honor.
I'm adopted so I have a dad who raised me, a birthfather, and a step-father. They all wanted to, but I chose my dad who raised me. It's up to your daughter! And encourage the men to support her in whichever decision she makes, and not to take it personally. The day is about her - not them.