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"Wedding protocol question"

  • Merrylou
    Posted: Aug 21, 2008 11:52 PM
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    Merrylou
    Indianapolis, IN
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    My 24 year old daughter Chelsea is getting married next June and we are planning a semi-formal wedding. Chelsea’s father Dan and I have been divorced for 20 years, but have remained friendly. I remarried when Chelsea was 6 years old and my current husband Steve has been an important influence in Chelsea’s life. Steve and Dan also get along well. Dan wants to walk Chelsea down the aisle but my current husband thinks it’s his role since he raised her.

    I’m sure other boomers have faced similar situations... I’d love to hear suggestions about the best way to handle this?

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    Carol M
    Posted: Aug 24, 2008 05:44 PM
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    Carol M
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    What are Chelseas's feelings? If she agrees with you, then maybe both men can walk her down the aisle to a point, and then Steve can walk her the rest of the way. It sort of mimics what happened in her life.

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    Irisheyes
    Posted: Aug 25, 2008 12:35 AM
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    Irisheyes
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    I agree with Carol... Ultimately it’s Chelsea’s decision who walks her down the aisle. In today’s world an untraditional approach is more acceptable. What a meaningful family celeberation tht would be if both her father and step father shared int he honor.

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    CuriousDina
    Posted: Oct 17, 2008 12:08 PM
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    CuriousDina
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    We'll have this dilemma, too, when my girlie gets hitched. I like the idea mentioned.

    Or you could divvy up the FOB chores. One could walk her down the aisle and the other could give the toast or have the first dance.

    Or heck break the rules and have doubles of everything. It's your daughter's day and I imagine the men who love her will want her to be happy, regardless of their feelings.

    Good luck, Dina

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    Joy Griffin
    Posted: Feb 04, 2010 05:39 PM
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    Joy Griffin
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    I'm adopted so I have a dad who raised me, a birthfather, and a step-father. They all wanted to, but I chose my dad who raised me. It's up to your daughter! And encourage the men to support her in whichever decision she makes, and not to take it personally. The day is about her - not them.

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    shine
    Posted: Oct 14, 2011 05:46 AM
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    It's really a big delima. I think you should listen to your daughter's suggestion. At her most important life stage, she can choose what she prefer. Sure she has her own reason.

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